I know it’s been a couple weeks since my last #BeHappylinkup, it’s been busy over here! I’m researching, meeting new people, and traveling to Los Angeles pretty often lately. When life gets busy sometimes it’s hard to take care of your own needs. We often put ourselves on the back burner and take care of everything and everyone else around us.
I’ve always been bad at putting myself first, mainly because I thought it meant I was a bad selfish person. My limits have been pushed and even ran over at times. I’m a better at this now, but I still need to figure out avoid pleasing everyone as a top priority.
Sometimes putting yourself first simply means focusing on what makes you happy. Sort of a natural cause and effect. No matter how many people are tugging from left to right, don’t move a muscle unless you really want to.
This doesn’t mean you completely cut yourself off from people. Many times what made me happy was doing what others needed. I think it depends on your personality.
In what ways do you keep yourself first? Or at least try to remember :)
I NEED to put myself first a little more often. I am the queen of overcommitting at times! And then I just hafta roll with it til the events/commitments are done. I’m in the midst of that right now – in a week or two it’ll be time for some regrouping.
I’ve had the same problem! I derive some measure of my own happiness from pleasing others, but sometimes I take it overboard and end up totally neglecting myself! Over the past couple of months I’ve been re-learning what feels good to ME, and listening to myself more often. If I want to do something, I’ll do it, but if I’m really not up to it, I’m learning to gracefully refuse with honesty! It’s done wonders for making me feel like I’ve regained the power over myself and my life that I too often hand over to other people.
I always have the same problem too! And then I have my little spurts of free time to focus on myself and regroup.
I completely understand! It’s tough to keep up with that so kudos to you for improving and getting better. I know it takes a lot of time to break bad habits and putting ourselves through things that make us unhappy or annoyed definitely have to stop.